一部可以对标请回答1988的国产良心剧，抛开一些鸡毛蒜皮的年代剧细节不谈，良心剧与无脑剧的区别是，就是每刷一遍都会引发新的思考角度。

第九集，四个兄弟姐妹露台上的争吵，围绕着到底该不该送小五回福利院。为自己而活，是老二不惜一切代价想要的，利益天平两边放的，一边是四处漏风的家与亲情，一边是向往已久的诗与远方。孰得孰失，一目了然。

老大的回归，让他觉得愤怒，因为过去的家与亲人已经成为他前行路上的阻碍，对理性至上的精英主义来说，阻碍是需要被清除掉的，一切不理性的行为都是在浪费生命。瘫痪的小五，教不好的三儿，明明不是骨肉血亲却拼命努力支撑家的小雪。每次老大出现在他的面前，都在提醒他，原生家庭的不堪光景，以及他永远无法摆脱的....血缘关系与责任。

人，到底该为谁而活。这是一个永恒的哲学命题。自己的利益与亲人的利益该如何分配，是牺牲自己成全家人，还是牺牲家人的利益来成全自己想要的，现代社会每个人无时无刻不在做着抉择。更多的时候这些利益是相冲突的，逼迫着人们称着良心走在平衡木上。

大家都觉得小雪好，老大好，顺子好，因为他们都愿意付出自己的所有去成全别人，所以活的纯粹，温暖。但老二却是更贴近现实里的人，活的拧巴，憋屈，撕扯。有良心在，但是不够打败想要为自己活的私心，哪怕代价是牺牲家人与真心的感情。

老二最终还是整明白了，然而比起剧里的一马平川，大团圆结局，现实更残酷的一点可能是，背叛了放弃了的失去了就真的失去了。如果做不到与原生家庭和解，就会在只有自己的世界里一骑绝尘，最终落了个天大地大只有自己的结局。

武志红的抑郁症来自于原生家庭，但是他讲述母亲的时候也感谢过母亲的亲自养育，虽然遗传的代价可能是要耗一辈子化解，但是在不停的努力下依旧达到了与原生家庭和解的平衡状态。反观另一个想要摆脱家庭桎梏而自己动手解决的北大学子，也因真正摆脱了来处而走上了绝路。

宇宙中，值得敬畏的是来处，没有来处，终究人生，只能是一个永远画不满的圆。

离别已离别，一直搞不懂为什么叫这个名字，最后女主的独白解释了一翻，还是没听懂，强行安利剧名的感觉。

但是！这部剧还是挺值得看一下，三代人 三个爸爸 四个妈妈。从剧开始每个角色身上便自带生活伤疤，并没有过多描述原因，便能大概知晓疤痕形成的原因，因为这就是我们生活中最常见的问题吖。进入妻子或丈夫再成为母亲或父亲的角色，在一个平凡但美满的家庭里幸福的生活，这似乎是再正常不过的生活轨迹，然而就是这些看似再普通不过的生活角色，也会遇到一些不幸，最后我们治愈的方式仍然是自己对生活的坚持与家人间的相互扶持。

另外，就是对女性作为母亲角色而需要减少社会角色投入或完全成为家庭主妇的思考，从故事结局来看，编剧的态度已经很明显，他大概是认为女性回归社会角色会更加幸福。这位编剧是男性，这点，让我非常感动。

以及对第三者本身的关注。成为第三者本身的道德判断不是本剧的重点，这不需要判断，就是不对。然而，女性成为第三者之后，特别是带着孩子，她们的生活也需要得到关注，因为，生活仍在继续，生活会发生什么不幸，我们不知道，但我们一直在做的都是在现有生活状态下创造更多美好的生活回忆。

太实在的剧，就是我们生活的日常，也让过程中看得有点乏味，但是真是一点不浮躁，细细品味就会感受到那些真实的温度。

这是一个很适合自己把自己困住的人的电影。你要相信人生的未知里，有随机也有注定。

以下是最喜欢的三段台词。

SAGE NEIGHBORLY ADVICE

W: How old is Mimi?T: She's 22, almost.W: She's young, you know?She's at an age where defense mechanisms are very strong.Despite the outer veneer, she is ruled by faired.Like so many of us in that time, you know.What you need to do, is just make her afraid of something more than being with you in that way.T: Which is?W: Not being with you.T: But how? How I'm supposed to do that?W: Hmm, let life take over. Find a window, then pounce.T: That's it? That's your Sage neighborly advice?Can I have my money back?W: Thomas, you're not giving life enough credit.The umpredictable forces of humanity.T: My life is not unpredictable.W: Life is as much a dream, as it is a nightmare.T: My life is conventional. My life is boring.W: No. It's as random as it is deliberate.You know, as funny as it is tragic.Yours is no exception.

J'S STRORY OF GETTING DOWN

T: You noticed that he liked to to come in early.Really early, like, what, 7:00 in the morning?So you started to come in early too. You isolate and contain.Told him it was because you don't sleep well, that bad dreams, whey share you awake before daylight.In the mornings, you put on music in your office.Brames one day, biggie smalls the next, because, you know, you can't be put into a box. You attack all the senses. You went a little aggressive on your signature scent, strong on the vanilla. You mentioned a boyfriend, then complainted of a bad date. You confuse him, make him wonder. The sex, ohh, the sex, the sex suprised you both. He was just walking you home after dinner. I mean, jesus, you7re not the other woman, he's not a cheating husband.'No, this isn't something that we did, that is something that happened to us. But what? Could it be love? Well, nobody wants to acknowledge that so soon in the game, but the stars are crossed and people are gonna get hurt and 'We've done a bad, bad thing, Ethan.' so, fuck, it must be, right? All of it was just bullshit -- calculated and manipulate-- from that first lie about your bad dreams. 'Cause I'm-I'm pretty sure that you sleep like a baby.J: You are quite storyteller.

WEDDING SPEACH

U: I have only few thoughts.Drama, the dramatics of marital romance. staying together.Like the Gipsy told me that the poems written in life lines are never guaranteed.They get busted up. Tomorrow begins new poetry.Another romance that will explode from time to time.Poetry of married people like the Aurora borealis.Stewn like stars in the sky, and the drama of your lives begins.Chapter after chapter, stories, books.Revolutions, as I know, will come. I've seen many. Lived though them.They play in the least expected places, so get ready.Casey understand Howard. Howard knows Casey. No. Not yet.There's always mistery. You both know that, you both know it isn't perfect.Excitement, trust and struggle, and the unknow privacies that keep us together.Glue of struggle.I raise my glass.The fragile glass we sto,ped on and shattered and will forever be putting back together.Like the puzzles we first worksed as children. Learning to be patient, searching for what fits.So many puzzles. So many books in this room.And I talked too much.Let's dance.