As the strongest country in the world, the people in the U.S. are struggling to survive. That's absurb, but it's true.

I happen to have been lived in the U.S. for two years, from 2013-2015. I accompanied my husband to study in Ann Arbor, Michigan. At that time, we didn't have income. And as a foreigner with F2 visa, I was not allowed to work there legally. So I had plenty of time to be exposed in the society of the U.S.

Ann Arbor is a small college town. It's beautiful all year round, especially in the fall. I tried my best to connect to the local society. I attended two bible study groups; I joined a book study group and a hiking group; I went to ESL class every week; I found several language partners to tutor Chinese and learn Enghlish with her; I joined a stay-at-home mom group.

As a foreigner with no recognization with any local people, it seems that I made a bunch of friends eventually through these groups. However, when I looked back, I suddenly realized the friends I made could be seprated into two groups: international friends and christian friends.

Here I want to talk about my christian friends in the U.S.. I took them as my friends. But actually, they didn't. They just wanted to introduce me to believe in God. They were very frugal. Extremely frugal.

They could drive 2 hours to another town, just for purchasing several cheap strawberries.

They went to the thrift stores very often. And they took me there, too.

They gave cheap gifts to me. Very often, these gifts were from the thrift stores. I could tell!

They could pay 100 dollars for How to Save Money class. (They are generous in learning how to save money)

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I could not bear their frugality. And they impacted me into a frugal person, too. I was not used to the life in China in the beginning of coming back. I dressed the T-shirts. and also dressed my baby with the second-handed clothes that I brought back from the U.S.; I calculated how to save money by buying the cheapest things in the supermarket; I spent a lot of time to find out the cheapest things on Taobao; I gave my friends the cheap gifts; I rented the cheap apartment.

I ended up living miserably in those two years. And finally I realized that I could not live like this any more. My husband had a good income, why should I live like we were very poor. And the time in calculating and searching matters. Time is precious.

This was the impact I got from the frugal Americans. After I came back to China, I alway take a pity in the Americans. They are really struggling. They are not happy, in that strongest country.

如今的娱乐圈已经被小鲜肉填满了，但是影视剧中不少大叔的出现反而带起了一股新风尚，要知道大叔都是从小鲜肉过来的，无论在剧中还是在生活中都是岁月沉淀的魅力大爆发！新生代的青春活泼朝气，成熟派的博学稳重踏实，哪一个会是你的菜呢？

在热播网剧《女王进行时》中，万翔饰演的年轻摄影师钱绍枫对上了宁南饰演的多金大叔万事如，一个是充满青春活力，积极向上的小鲜肉，一个是英明果断，气质非凡的杂志社总监，两个人举手投足之间，都能迷倒一片少女。看到这样的网剧，你还能招架的住么？

本来轻质化甜宠有市场无可厚非，但是我只看了短短八集，问题太多，这个热度和评分我再一次深刻明白为什么中国影视剧烂剧频出。

其一，主打温暖日常，不好意思，勾心斗角的兄弟情和不容情的宫规搞在一起怎么看出来的温暖日常，就因为吃的丰富姐妹成团？

其二，girls help girls，都说了宫规严厉，那些选秀女子我能理解，但二十四节气就很让人疑惑唉，她们有一部分人家境不好，而且从小在新川长大，对待自己丈夫的态度真的就合理吗？真的就为了融入姐妹而不争宠这个设定本身就惹人非议；

其三，轻松搞笑，除了老五和男主的心腹和美含的演绎真的有点意思以外，其他的搞笑点超级过时超级尴尬的啊喂，我是真的看过武林外传的好不好？

其四，感情，一点也不正常，除了男女主，但是女主做了很多让我尴尬的事情，导致看他们感情升温时刻我用三倍速。

我尊重观众的喜好多样性，但是这种四不像的作品我真的希望不要出太多，把资金和市场让步精品。

怎么寫呢。不寫，有話憋住；寫，從哪兒，眼該放到某處，都是阻攔這支筆的囿障。

這是在兩天里才看完的一個電影。前一天，不能忍受，慢速、情吞，高光灼痛的人物說話。第二天，醇厚、墜落的緩逝，仍由人物或行或道表現出。身處從業洪流前，他不只一次去聽馬勒5號交響。是這個原因么。讓人沉落，心的急劇墜落，面對眼前——靜水深潭的旋渦。也許我們非得接受，每個人投身人生前的倒行直走，彎彎繞 。但是參予者都是不斷甘于忘記，他不，倉庫般一點點堆積，一展展撩開，回憶，去停留。某些閃亮，那種人間不贊美的品質，早該記住的東西，只能靠他這種人，才可晾解，和人生握一把手。

從這點看， 仍需要這類人。看似多余空白，拜賜電影，人性回歸。

艾迪昂那段咖啡館的事。我想說什么可能很大程度上是錯誤。想表達的反是后邊，在那幾行字的里首。所以這會兒，自那段發布后一直像嵌了鐫子，別著。他是說了，寧肯獨自，坐在桌椅，看人群，喝咖啡。但他說的時間，是和對桌女人，一同渡過。這個后者，是幾次同他爭論現實，不能改變、視線不離開他，與他連同他和她共同在坐的朋友一道，探討詭譎現實，在這世道沖出也可能的血路，這樣抗爭的女人，她這就要告別。是在這種況味下，他然后說這么句，像沒聽進去這最后她說了的相同的話。然后他看她，她沒有氣要生，凝神他，深深看進，他看她，她正看他，像好書樣好，像深山般，他架合著大身子，在酒桌上。

他這時也其實不想表達他孤傲，他說這話根本沒這意思。是隱微。但在電影我沒看見有第二次他這樣做的時候。他待過一回，在淡黑雅座間，他向左聽，倆個男人在說半點后的賽馬。他朝右看，母親給呆看畫冊小兒講后來可能的人生。他笑了，這是僅有一次表現他喜歡的物事。這能說明他是真的喜歡么？他有一次給人看到的他的立志，可以說開他終生的行為依據么。

但他遠不是個說明派。他面相認真，表情深邃，但也可能藏著些根本不能說的意思。